tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post576931226721024483..comments2023-11-03T07:44:57.339+00:00Comments on Staring at the Sea: That Was The Week That WasFiona@Staring at the Seahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17893269475772722633noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-27082469399744061972011-12-11T22:37:09.737+00:002011-12-11T22:37:09.737+00:00Fi the ladies on here have all said it so well.
...Fi the ladies on here have all said it so well. <br /><br />The fact that Sam feels he can let his fears out when he gets home shows what a secure safe haven you have created. Whilst Amelia struggles with witnessing these rages, I am sure with your family closeness, she will come out of this a strong and understanding person. And as for you...you always sound like you are amazing, none of us look at our parenting skills and feel we have done it all 100% perfectly, and if anyone out there feels they are..then they are not telling the truth..however knowing we do what we feel is best and being able to reflect on what we could do differently and better next time is how we all grow as people. <br /><br />Sending you so much love.<br /><br />Jules xxJulesmichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10146561588985238146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-4515036871840948982011-12-09T17:22:00.463+00:002011-12-09T17:22:00.463+00:00I didn't realise that you had a child with Asp...I didn't realise that you had a child with Aspergers but my heart goes out to every parent who has a child with additional needs. I agree with the other comments made already, especially that he is doing well to keep things together at school. I know how the school year affects average children in terms of their tiredness and as they get used to things and then they all change. I also know how many of them find it hard to cope with the differences in the run up to Christmas. I myself also find it incredibly hard when I am out of routine, like this past week, and how terribly it affects my mood and that is without a diagnosis. I have no words of advice, just lots of love and a hope that he gets through the next couple of weeks okay xxLisa-Janehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03150130990478203351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-91321154986406073132011-12-08T16:52:37.194+00:002011-12-08T16:52:37.194+00:00(((((Hugs))))) Fiona - I have a nephew with ADHD a...(((((Hugs))))) Fiona - I have a nephew with ADHD and Aspergers tendancies and I see how hard life is for my sister especially when people like to tutt and blame it on the parenting. I hope it gets easier for you - H is now 17 and managing to go to college, they still have their trials but things are definitely not as bad as they once where.<br /><br />My sister always use to say that I should take it as a compliment when he use to let it all go when round my house, she said it was because he felt safe with me.<br /><br />Karen xxKraftyKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12414480551327007813noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-79381560852947629912011-12-08T16:26:12.555+00:002011-12-08T16:26:12.555+00:00I have just read your blog for the first time, bec...I have just read your blog for the first time, because you left a comment on mine. This must be heartbreaking, but I think it's probably a really 'good' sign that he can hold it together until he gets to the safety of home. that shows a lort of emotional control. My son has hemiplegia, so a physical rather than learnign disability, and he does the same - takes it out on us at home.Kirsty.Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12871986166387685593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-561188564029898272011-12-06T20:57:23.947+00:002011-12-06T20:57:23.947+00:00It is really a tough time when you have a young on...It is really a tough time when you have a young one with Aspergers. My brother and a nephew have it. The brother to my nephew(also my nephew but I don't know how to word this) also is suspected of having two children with Asperger's because of behavioral issues. One is only 2 and the other is 4. It is difficult to deal with when they are young but both my brother and my nephew have learned and continue to learn how to cope in situations. My brother says that having the knowledge of how you coped before with a similar situation helps a lot. You are a great Mom from what I have read in your blog and are doing what needs to be done so don't think that you aren't! Hang in there! {hugs} Vickieokienursehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16737956457626102108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-13576555215241323612011-12-06T16:48:47.089+00:002011-12-06T16:48:47.089+00:00Fi, you are such a kind and caring person, i hope ...Fi, you are such a kind and caring person, i hope things are back on an even keel soon iykwim.<br /><br />we are all here cheering you on and marvel all at you do too.<br /><br />with much love<br /><br />Lisa<br />xxxxLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12397910589851628578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-17776162196863271942011-12-06T12:11:11.235+00:002011-12-06T12:11:11.235+00:00Just wanted to echo what everyone else has says. ...Just wanted to echo what everyone else has says. It is clear from your blog posts that you are a great Mum and doing all you can to support your son. Take care of yourself too!Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05314856798900512630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-44995941359066182862011-12-06T09:37:46.643+00:002011-12-06T09:37:46.643+00:00Fi we both know what a daily challenge Aspergers c...Fi we both know what a daily challenge Aspergers can be but I am sure like me you see each little step forward with even more joy. You are always there for support and wise words for me and I know you are even more so with Sam and Amelia. You know where I am if you ever need a shoulder xScattychickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08329641967749598915noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-86497393026898888732011-12-06T07:26:14.507+00:002011-12-06T07:26:14.507+00:00I have been where you are and I know how horrible ...I have been where you are and I know how horrible and how hard it is. Your son is lucky that he has this outlet and he has his safe place and he has a family that accept and support him regardless. As a mum who totally understands all you are going through can I just say it does get easier in time. My son is now 26 and living a life I never would have thought possible during those many red mist rages and the days afterwards when he needed us more than ever just to know that his world would be ok and that we would always love him regardless. I know that our situations are different but I felt it might just help you to know that things do get better and not just different. LindaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-26332440139618782692011-12-06T05:26:16.916+00:002011-12-06T05:26:16.916+00:00So sorry to hear of what is happening in your fami...So sorry to hear of what is happening in your family Fiona. Big hugs to you and those around you. Take care.Gingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14722162429142110718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-71052882624861129442011-12-05T22:43:53.260+00:002011-12-05T22:43:53.260+00:00Aww Fi, it can be so hard with the anger outbursts...Aww Fi, it can be so hard with the anger outbursts.You are fantastic and so patient and kind.And he is such a sweet buy xxAlihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08807307702673947135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-26254007389335894362011-12-05T22:33:03.985+00:002011-12-05T22:33:03.985+00:00I completely agree with what Suzy said....and hope...I completely agree with what Suzy said....and hopefully sharing your feelings really helps.scrappyjackyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11761068895383717904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-42727782476094816142011-12-05T22:02:42.823+00:002011-12-05T22:02:42.823+00:00You are one of the strongest women I know, and tha...You are one of the strongest women I know, and that makes Sam lucky! You're in his corner. If I can help, even if it's just to be on the other end of a phone when you need to scream, just shout.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09972581207321576723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-18176915169799683162011-12-05T21:50:54.387+00:002011-12-05T21:50:54.387+00:00Fiona thank you for sharing. It made interesting ...Fiona thank you for sharing. It made interesting reading. I only know a little about Aspergers but know how busy and different this term is so I can see how it would have a major impact. Sound like you are doing a fabulous job to me xxJuliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16025996839983362937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-22579420523990303632011-12-05T19:53:29.281+00:002011-12-05T19:53:29.281+00:00Hope you feel better for writing it down. You are ...Hope you feel better for writing it down. You are doing a great job from what I see on the blog. We have a number of students who have asperger's at school so I have a bit of an insight but know that that is just the tip of the iceberg. Hugs from up here xJo.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07820748953847906225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-8474962785794111402011-12-05T19:47:14.422+00:002011-12-05T19:47:14.422+00:00Well it can't be easy - and it does us all goo...Well it can't be easy - and it does us all good to get things off our chests now and then. You sound like a brilliant Mum and you're doing the best you can in difficult circumstances - hope that things ease up for you all soon xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-13772614426714299132011-12-05T19:01:31.289+00:002011-12-05T19:01:31.289+00:00There's not much I can add to what the others ...There's not much I can add to what the others have said Fiona....just that you and your family will be in my thoughts during the approach to Christmas, which is obviously one of your son's flashpoints...take care of you!<br />Alison xxAlisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08085826005055196079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-17826823802107886072011-12-05T17:06:59.658+00:002011-12-05T17:06:59.658+00:00I'm so sorry to hear you've all been havin...I'm so sorry to hear you've all been having a hard old time of it! I think Suzy has said it perfectly. I second that. Actually, you're an 80's girl, so if I write "I second that devotion" you might know what I mean. I think it fits xSianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01764280029794453933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-27839822593292328782011-12-05T16:37:43.539+00:002011-12-05T16:37:43.539+00:00Sending love and hugs to you Fi. It must be an in...Sending love and hugs to you Fi. It must be an incredibly difficult thing to deal with and you must never feel you are failing as a Mother. It is very obvious from the way you talk about your family online what a great Mum you are. Hopefully it might get easier for him as he gets a bit older. All you can do is be there for him when he needs you.Suzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00010466796949963310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5563954452896474448.post-18670568940880339372011-12-05T16:20:18.871+00:002011-12-05T16:20:18.871+00:00((((HUGS))))There is a family drama on American TV...((((HUGS))))There is a family drama on American TV called Parenthood. The teen boy has Asperger's and I believe it is being so well written and is educating so many to the challenges to parents, siblings, family, friends and educators. The young man playing the part is doing an amazing job at helping us understand as much as possible his world. God bless you and your sweet boy.Beverlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15502950142316640988noreply@blogger.com